The time when marketers of all industries urge us to “get ready for summer!” (and they are not talking about picking up a tube of SPF 50). ‘Getting ready for Summer’ AKA going on a crash diet, a week-long juice cleanse, twice-a-day workouts and picking up the latest ‘supplement’ promising to speed up metabolism is on everybody’s to-do list around this time of year because God forbid we aren’t “ready” AKA thin, toned and tan.
It’s a time of year many of us dread, including myself.
Confession: Putting on a bikini is still one of the most difficult things for me to do. (psychologically, not physically)
I can come home from an amazing workout feeling nothing but love and admiration for my body’s ability to do some pretty awesome things but as soon as I slip into my bathing suit and catch a glimpse of my body (and all it’s perceived flaws) in the mirror, my body positive gusto can instantly vanish if I’m not mindful of my feelings.
At the end of the day, we all just want to feel comfortable and confidant in our bathing suit, right? And this is why I am sharing with you the REAL way to ‘get ready’ for summer (no fancy supplements or juice cleansing involved).
The main reason we think we aren’t ‘swimsuit ready’ isn’t because we aren’t at our ‘goal weight’, it’s because we value other people’s opinion more that our own.
So often we imagine what other people might think or say when we step out on the beach or arrive at the pool. This usually is followed up with insecure thoughts like,
“My arms are too big! Ugh, I hate my belly! People are staring at me and they think I need to cover up because I look horrible!” – I know these thoughts all too well.
My man, Wayne Dyer, has some very wise words about other valuing other people’s opinions.
“Perhaps the greatest mistake we make, which causes a loss of self-respect, is making the opinions of others more important than our own opinion of ourselves” – Wayne Dyer
When we make other’s opinions of our self more important and more valuable than our own, we lose our self-respect, which is why we feel so crappy when it happens.
One of my favorite commercials of all time is the Southern Comfort commercial with this guy walking on the beach holding a drink. He doesn’t have a care in the world and looks completely comfortable in his own skin. My goal every summer is to be this guy. He doesn’t give a hoot what people think and walks with complete confidence and comfort.
HERE is a link to see this example of pure body positive awesomeness.
So how do you start making your own opinion of yourself more important during this time of year?
Here are 3 important things to remember:
It’s All About the Money
The emphasis to ‘be ready for summer’ is a marketing gimmick that just creates insecurity and businesses know that people will shell out big bucks to get rid of this horrible feeling. Stop falling for this marketing trick. You are better than that.
The Other People Are You
Let’s face it, no one is really all that concerned with how you look in your bathing suit because they’re feeling the exact same way you are feeling. We all want to feel better about ourselves in our bathing suit and when you realize this, it can become much less intimidating to say yes to that pool party or beach barbeque.
When People Judge it is a Reflection on Them NOT You
If you do happen to over hear someone making negative remarks about someone else’s body just remember that when someone judges another it’s because they see flaws in themselves. “How you view others is a projection of how you view yourself” – Wayne Dyer
** Bonus step – When all else fails, watch the Southern Comfort video right before you head out. I guarantee that it will put a smile on your face.