Body Love = A Dynamic Relationship
My marriage is far from perfect.
My husband has spent many a sleepless night on the couch and I have spent many an afternoon in a cleaning rage (I clean when I get angry…. don’t ask).
There are many times we don’t see eye to eye.
We tend to disagree on A LOT of things.
In fact, if you Googled “married bliss”, you probably wouldn’t find our smiling faces anywhere near the first 100 pages (you get the idea).
But I still love him.
Our relationship is and will forever be in flux because like all other things in this world, it’s dynamic. There are moments of complete perfection and other times of indescribable frustration but through it all my love for my incredible husband remains a constant (even when he does the laundry and ruins my clothes).
This dynamic relationship is one I also share with my body.
Just like my marriage, when it comes to my relationship with my body, there are days when I want to scream out in frustration and days I want to dance through a field of lilies.
Taking part in a loving relationship with my body doesn’t mean I walk around hugging myself all day. And it doesn’t mean I spend all day at the beach wearing nothing but a string bikini and a smile. Don’t get me wrong, these are both great but are by no means the defining action of positive body image.
Just as every loving relationship has a different way of existing, the way you express your loving relationship with your body is completely unique to you.
I was recently asked how one goes about “loving their body” in the first place.
This month I will be sharing with you the most powerful things you can do to elevate, heal and/or establish a loving relationship with your body.
The first step I’m about to share is extremely simple, but not easy. And it is this:
Exchange judgment for curiosity.
If you could do one thing right now to immediately improve your relationship with your body this would be it. And this goes for all people across the board. Happy with your weight or not, there are times when judgments on our body creep into our everyday thoughts and words.
“I’m too old to do that and would look foolish”
“My legs aren’t flexible enough and I won’t ever be able to bend like that”
“My arms aren’t strong enough and I won’t ever be that strong”
“I’m not skinny enough to dance like that”
It’s time to get curious!
This is how you might exchange the statements of judgment into questions of curiosity:
“I wonder why doing that would make me feel foolish? I wonder if someone my age has done that before?”
“I wonder why my legs are so tight?”
“I wonder why my arms don’t feel strong?”
“I wonder if I could learn to dance like that?”
Big difference? You betcha!
So now it’s your turn!
Take this first step by making a list of 3 judgments you commonly make about your body. Then go back through this list and rewrite each judgment as a question- sans judgment. (Really…go do it!)
You won’t want to miss next week. I will share with you the single most powerful question you can ask yourself when you want to feel better about your body.
Have a wonderful weeekend and get curious.