In honor of Valentines Day (or singles awareness day), I wanted to talk about the person I've always had the most difficult time loving.
This person is not only my biggest critic and hardest person to please, they're also always the first to remind me of all the things that could possibly go wrong in any given situation or decision. They're also the hardest on me when things don't end up working out the way I've planned. Yep, you guessed it. It’s me. I’ve always had the hardest time loving myself and I know I'm not alone.
For most of us, we're our own worst enemy and often get in our own way when it comes to any goals, hopes and/or dreams we set for ourselves. We self sabotage and have an impossible time forgiving ourselves. One of the hardest part about practicing kindness and acceptance toward ourselves is that it's not highly valued by society (including our friends and family). We're encouraged to stay late at work to be more productive and prove our worth, we praise parents that sacrifice their personal time and passions to become a taxi driver for their kids, and we strive to be that person burning both ends of the candle in hopes of recieving external validation for our hard work in order to fill a gaping hole within our self worth. In this country, we're raised to believe that our value as a person is defined by the amount of self-sacrifice and amount of productivity and accomplishments we can claim as our own.
It is time to make self-care more important than self-sacrifice.
This Valentines Day, I challenge you to find a new way (today and everyday) to take care of you just a little bit more than before. Close the laptop and get into bed early, turn off the social media and lay in silence with your thoughts for a few minutes, skip the party when you're exhausted and stay in bed with a good book or order that extra decadent desert just because and slowly savor every single bite. No matter what your day was like or how much you've accomplished, you deserve to be honored, loved and accepted simply beciase you exist. Being treated well by others starts with treating yourself well.
Happy Valentines Day! Give yourself a hug and know - you are already enough.