Have you ever gotten so close to your health and fitness goals only to mess them all up? You know what I’m talking about. You’re working out consistently, taking care of yourself and then all of a sudden boom! Things just seem to fall apart? OK may be YOU don’t mess it up but something or someone else does. May be your child gets sick, you come up on a big deadline at work, you have relatives visiting, you go on a business trip? I could go on and on with the reasons people stop taking care of themselves but when it comes down to it, it is still a choice. It is still your choice.
You self sabotage and then you're right back at square one.
My favorite guy, Mastin Kipp, wrote a wonderful post this week on self sabotage and how we need to replace this word with self protection. As human beings, we are hard wired to survive. The problem with this is that your instinct to survive can really screws up your chances of getting what you ultimately desire.
Mastin says that we self protect because we don’t think that we’ll be safe if we keep going and actually reach our goal. It’s like when you finally graduated high school and thought “Now what?”.
Our culture paints a fantastical picture of the “healthy” life. It looks something like this; You will be amazingly happy, your family will love you more, you will have tons more energy, you will be able to tackle all of life’s difficult situations with grace and ease, you will never have another ache or pain because you have reached your health peak! You have arrived and life is grand!
You know real life isn’t like this. Real life is messy and no matter if you reach 15,000 or 3,000 steps for the day, the thoughts and feelings toward yourself still remain and ultimately this is what keeps you trapped in self-protection mode.
So many times I have tried to focus on changing my behaviors before I change my thinking and every time I end up right back at square one. Most people call this laziness or losing motivation, I call this fear staring me straight in the face and me reverting to familiar behaviors and self-protecting. We all do this at some point in our life.
So what can you do to move past this fear and take your health to the next level?
Recognize your laziness and procrastination as fear. Rename self-sabotage as self-protection. Then make friends with your fear. Mastin says “to see fear as a compass showing you where to go”. Follow your compass with courage. Realize that before you can solidify a behavior change you must first change your thinking or else you will be stuck forever.