The feeling like nothing you do will improve your situation or that things will never get any better?
Since the death of Robin Williams this past Monday, this week has been full of reflection. I think of what a terrible loss we have experienced collectively as a community but I’m also reminded of when I was 18 years olds and completely in the depths of anorexia. I was too frail and weak to leave home to go to school and deep down inside I thought that I would be better off dead. I was slowly committing suicide by way of starvation. I had no hope for the future and felt like I was a waste of space. I did not decide to have an eating disorder just as one does not decide to suffer clinical depression.
Just as we don’t get to decide whom we have as parents or where we are born, we also don’t get to decide to have a mental illness. BUT (and this is a big but) one can decide to ask for help and embrace recovery.
Ten years after the start of my eating disorder and during my second stint in treatment I made a conscious decision that I was going to work the program for all it was worth and return home to live my life to its most complete and in its fullest possible form. I decided to choose recovery. It was a conscious decision. It was the most important decision I ever made in my life.
Robin Williams did not decide to commit suicide. He decided that day to not seek out help as he had done on so many other days of his life. He held his breath too long under the deadly waters and wasn’t able to get up in time for air.
One of the most amazing abilities we have as human being is the power of free will. We are all deciders. So why is it that so many of us never fully take advantage of this power? We allow circumstance or others to decide what things mean to us or which direction our life should go.
How do you stop feeling powerless?
You make a decision.
You decide to give your current situation a different meaning. You give it a different label. It is simple, but it’s not easy.
In my years as a personal trainer, I have had my fair share of clients that decided their body was the enemy. They decided that their legs were too big, their arms weren’t toned enough, ect, ect…
These were all decisions they had made themselves. They were decisions influenced by family, friends, culture, ect. But at the end of the day, they themselves were the ones who decided whether or not to believe these outside influences.
So many clients attempt to hate themselves into loving their body and I am here to say that it has NEVER NEVER NEVER worked. Just like you cannot stress yourself to peace or lack your way to abundance, you can never hate your body into loving it. Standing in front of your mirror day after day running a negative tape in your head about your skin, thighs, arms, stomach, ect will never lead you to love your body.
What new way can you decide to look at your life to become more powerful?
Decide to thrive! You are the captain of your own ship and only you can change the course of your life with a simple decision.