Does This Make Me Look Fat?
I cannot stand it when my clients complain about their weight.
Now before you think “Yikes! She is talking about me!” or “What the heck? She is a personal trainer- of course I’m going to complain about my weight to her” let me explain.
I respect and admire my clients. It takes a certain amount of courage and faith to sign up to work with a personal trainer. It takes courage because you are making a decision to get better by challenging your body’s status quo. And it takes faith because of the trust you are bestowing upon me by allowing me to handle your physical wellness. I am always deeply honored that clients give me their trust. It is not something to be taken lightly. I am dedicated to help my clients reach their goal and will answer any question they may have along their journey. But there is one question I HATE (yes I said hate) more than anything:
“Does This Make Me Look Fat?”
No matter where you stand on body image, women’s rights, the obesity epidemic or whether you are male or female, this question is always a landmine. And it is a landmine I get to navigate more often than not with many of my clients.
I recently read an AMAZING post for a new campaign called “Stop the Beauty Madness” that provided a very definitive answer for anyone who is ever asked this loaded question. I must say I was very impressed by the simplicity of the answer because it sums up what I try to communicate to my clients in a very concise manner.
Don’t worry I will get to it.
Before I tell you what this simple response was I must first share these few things:
NO - I do not think you are vain or obsessed with your appearance when you ask this question or make a statement similar to it.
NO - I do not respond the way I do to this question as a way to dismiss you. I believe you inner struggle with your appearance is real and I honor your perception.
NO – Losing weight will not stop you from asking this crazy-making question in the future. It takes some work on the inside to stop this exhausting question from circling in your head.
And finally YES – I will still help you in your goals of weight loss but at the same time I will attempt to educate you and inspire you to understand that your real worth and strength have nothing to do with a number on the scale.
So with that said, here is the response that was given in the article as a way to respond to the question “Does this make me look fat?”:
“That question is too small for a person such as you and I hope that you never ask me again”
BOOM! This is what I want all my clients to hear from me and know that I fully and completely believe this. Like I said earlier, I respect and admire my clients. I think they are courageous and strong individuals so a question such as this really belongs nowhere in their presence.