What’s on your bucket list? You know, one of those lists that are full of all the things you want to do before you kick-the-bucket (AKA die)? Do you dream of traveling to some far off place, write a book, start a business, climb Mt. Everest, get into a yoga class? OK… that last one might be a little bit of a stretch (no pun intended) but in all honesty, do you treat your exercise goals like dreams on a bucket list? What is the difference between a goal and a dream?
A goal is a dream with a deadline.
Is committing to your health your dream or your goal? What is stopping you from staying consistent? Think you are lazy? Think you lack the motivation or the time? Yes, those are the most obvious answers and they are the answers you have probably heard from so many other health professionals. But what if I told you that there is something much deeper than that stopping you from finally making your health a priority?
The truth is simple. If something is REALLY a priority you, you do it.
Think about your job or your family obligations. What would happen if you decided you just didn’t feel up to going to a meeting or making your child’s breakfast in the morning and you hit the snooze button instead over and over, day after day? No good right? So why do we flake out on our own health? What kills our motivation and stops any positive momentum dead in its tracks? Why is committing to regular exercise and healthy habits is so dang hard?
It is this simple yet destructive belief:
I AM NOT ENOUGH.
Enough of what? Do any of these sound familiar...
-I am not young enough
-I am not old enough
-I am not experienced enough
-I am not smart enough
-I am not flexible enough
-I am not skinny enough
-I am not pretty enough
-I am not strong enough
And the list goes on and on. I can’t tell you how any times I have heard a client say that they aren’t skinny enough to wear their bathing suit. They aren’t in shape enough to try a new exercise class. They haven’t lost enough weight to go to their high school reunion. Even my own dad says that he is not “in shape enough” to try yoga with me.
When are we enough?
And who decides we are enough?
There was a time in my eating disorder that I was working out for 3 hours a day every day of the week. I was underweight, miserable, sick both mentally and physically, in pain and yet I still believed that I was not enough. According to my eating disorder, I was not skinny enough, pretty enough, strong enough, ect. I missed out on life because I believed I was not enough. I lost friends, relationships and opportunities that I will never get back all because of this one destructive but all too common belief.
Today in my recovery I still struggle with believing I am enough when I go to yoga class on the weekend. These 90 minutes away from my 2-year-old son can easily be filled with guilt and anxiety if I believe I am not a good enough mom and should really be spending time with him. When these negative thoughts start creeping in I fight back with this:
I deserve my “me time”
I am a good enough mom
I am enough just as I am
I deserve to feel good and to take care of myself
I am enough
It has taken me a long time to truly believe this. I am not being selfish and I am not being narcissistic. I am taking care of me the best way I know how by showing myself the compassion, acceptance and love I would show my best friend. Why should I treat myself any less?
So back to the questions:
When are you enough?
Who decides you are enough?
What are you putting off because you believe you are not enough? What dreams and goals are being pushed aside because you believe you are not yet enough?
In the comments below let me know what you are going to do knowing that you are enough and then give yourself a deadline. Make those dreams a reality! You are enough and you are worth it.
Do you know someone that believes they are not enough? Share this article with them. Let them know they are enough right now in this very moment.
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